Should a Marine recruit should marry during boot camp leave?
My fiancee is currently in Parris Island, and we weren’t planning on marrying until after Boot, MCT and MOS are all completed. Today his recruiter strongly suggested we marry during his ten day leave between boot and MCT instead. He said that if I don’t marry him then that paperwork will take a long time and I may not be able to go to his PDS when he’s stationed. I don’t understand. Married is married. Why shouldn’t I be able to? What’s so complicated about this so-called paperwork? Anyone?
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Ill try to answer this as best i can.
1st
Just about everything in the military is hurry up and wait. What normally would take a few days can get lost in the shuffle or just sit on someones desk before he/she gets the light bulb to move it along. Sad but true.
2nd
If you planned on living with him at his permanent duty station, then there are certain reasons for yall to be married prior to him getting there.
a. Unmarried soldiers are usually required to live on base in barracks.
b. because of the above said reason, they do not get housing allowance. so if you planed on living with him yall would not have the extra funding to pay for apt or house or what not.
c. and then as mention before the medical benefits also come into play. if yall are not married now, it takes a bit of time to get the paperwork reprocessed to have you added.
d. as a married soldier he/yall would be allowed to live together on base housing or be able to live off base with a housing allowance to go with it as mentioned before.
At this point also your bfs recruiter is also your life line. He knows yalls situation and issues, well for the most part he does. And he will be able to get the ball rolling as far as pay and insurance and what not. If he gets to the perm duty station and then gets married, then its on ur bf to get this done by himself for the most part.
Now i dunno about you, but id rather have a person who does this on a daily basis to help me than, try to deal with the angst of new job, new wife, and on top of that get all the other stuff(paperwork) squared away.
Now by all means, it is your choice and decision, but the recruiter is looking out for your and his best interest.
Good luck
How many questions per minute in this section.?
you should do what ever your heart whats you to do , do as you wish you will get far inlife
You get better pay.
I dont know, it is stupid. Do not let the military let you know when yall shouldnt or shouldnt get married. Good luck babe
so you can get the benefits
Paperwork takes time. If it takes too long, you may have to pay out of your own pocket for your personal moving expenses. His paychecks will be better whilst married, therefor, as a family, you’ll be able to save more money.
This "so-called paperwork" controls every move he makes and every penny he earns.
What the recruiter means is when your fiance leaves MOS school for his first Duty Station he will not have accompanied orders. So that means no moving reimbursement and a larger possibility of him being stationed in Japan. And the paperwork is a SOB if you marry once you hit the fleet, that is what my wife and I did, took me 45 days to get everything done.
If you marry on boot leave you can get the paper work done, start getting the benefits, pay, etc. If you don’t think you are ready to marry though, fuck it and wait till you are ready. I would recommend you wait, just trying to better explain what the recruiter was saying.
The paperwork is ridiculous, never give the military an original of anything because they will lose it. What should take three seconds takes half a month or longer to do in the military. That’s probably why he wants you to get married now. You should do whatever you want to do though.
Keep in mind that they like to tell you that they will not pay for your move once he is in the fleet. Which is BS. Do not take no for an answer. They tried pulling this when I got married, but they ended up paying for it anyway.